Victim Victim Fool Fool!

In non-functional families (I am trying to avoid using the term, “dysfunctional”), there is always at least one person that is in the victim role. Unfortunately, in my family, that would be me.

I grew up being the victim sometimes gracefully but most of the time, not so gracefully.

My personality is such that I automatically trust trusted people. I was stinkin' nice. Always believing in the “golden rule.” Treat people nice and they will treat you nice.

I spent my childhood being chased down the street by my sister with a butcher knife in her hand because I “borrowed” some of her clothes without asking. We fought constantly and often used our fists. She was selfish and self-centered, and I was always in the “survival” mode around her. For some reason, my mother thought this was okay.

I learned to avoid her as much as I possibly could. I learned that my mother would always take up for my sister – to her, she was perfect and I was the “problem” child. I stayed at my grandmother's as much as I possibly could.

With my sister's abuse and the emotional abuse from our father, our home was my nightmare.

In today's world, people think of victims as fools. We are fools because we are considered mindless and weak. (Maybe that is my problem, I am mindless and weak).

When I married I looked forward to being away from the place I was constantly being victimized. Finally! I would be loved, wanted, and needed, and would never again be a victim. What I found, however, is, I did not know any other way to be, but as a victim. When I divorced him, he victimized me even more.

As victims, our self esteem is destroyed and we learn to go inward with all of our emotions; our anger, our fears, and all of our emotional pain.

Because if we don't, again, we are considered weak and are victimized mor

That word, “victim” not only defined me, it chased me, it terrorized me, it abused me, and it threw me into the darkness of severe depression and mental illness. I fought it, I screamed, I kicked, I just wanted to die, but most of all I wanted to survive WITHOUT being a victim! But how? How does one stop being in the role of victim?

Love…maybe that is the answer! I will find someone who really does love me and will treat me with love and respect. I will find a man that will “adore” me and who I will adore. There is a problem with that. Soon you become the victim of gossip and wagging tongues. You are called a “whore”, a “bad” girl, a “hussy”, someone no right-minded good man would want.

For awhile alcohol seemed to do the trick. Alcohol “seemed” to keep me from being the victim. I didn't have to feel all the emotional pain of being victimized. There is a problem with that too. Soon, you become the victim of the alcohol.

I have learned, there is no shortage of victimizers. And, there are no shortage of victims. I have learned that victims are always human. Although many victimizers are humans, some victimizers are not always in “human” form. We can become victims of love, alcohol, drugs, money, greed, work, and you fill in the blank.

What there is a shortage of in this crazy and mixed up world is… kindness, love, and understanding. Until this world is filled with more people with these qualities, there will always be plenty of victims and victimizers.

This is our final day for the Zero to Hero Challenge. I have learned a lot from this challenge and am looking forward to future challenges to further my blogging skills. Thank you to all my readers and friends that have stuck with me through this challenge. I wish you all much success in all your future endeavors, as well as, in your blogging future.

 

Random Moments of Delight

ZerotoHero Challenge Day 24: In response to the challenge for today, I decided to add another blogging event to my blog. This is the second event that I have chosen.

If you are interested in joining this event, please click on the photo below.

Or, if you prefer, choose an event that you are interested in by visiting: http://dailypost.wordpress.com/ and go into Blogging Events.

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RANDOM MOMENTS OF DELIGHT

IMG_9326Start Date: Sunday, recurring weekly

Description: This challenge is about sharing moments of delight with each other each week. It could be a photograph, or a description; a video or a poem; a short story or essay, or a combination. Then link up here so we can share in each other’s happy moments.

The rules are simple:

1. In a new post share a treasured moment from your week and “illustrate” it with a photograph, description, poem, short prose, short video, whatever genre fits your moment. If it is visual (photo or video), please tell us why it was special to you.

2. Put a link back to my challenge that week so others may take part if they wish. If you’d like to use the badge, please do.

3. Please use the address of your POST, not your blog, in the linky. Be polite to others so we don’t have to look all over for your post.

The challenge begins on Sunday, but will stay open through Thursday, and a new one will begin the following Sunday. I chose Sunday to set us up for a wonderful week of looking for Random Moments of Delight!

Organizer: Firebonnet

Full Event Details

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Frankly, many of us have days that are filled with stress, disappointments, and the struggles we individually face each and every day. What a wonderful thing to stop and write a blog post about “delightful” things we encounter during the week? Maybe it sounds cheesy to some, but to me, it sounds like a refreshing break from the every day.

Now, to finish my zerotohero challenge for the day, I will visit other participants of the events I have chosen. I hope to see you participating with me!

I wish you much success in your writing and blogging.


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May I Have Your Attention Please?

Our Zero to Hero Challenge for today is to write a post that links to an event. I went into the event pages and found this. Earlier this week I posted some photos of the Four Corners Region and asked others to post photos of the areas they live in. Well… whatdoyaknow, this blog site has an event that does the same thing! So, please check it out and if you are interested, participate. I think it will be fun, interesting, and help us get to know one another better.

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Event Type: Photography

Start Date: Sunday, recurring weekly

Description: Every Sunday I run a photo post called “My Home Town” which features a picture from…you guessed it…my home town. I encourage you to do the same, and share a link with us!

The blogging community is filled with people from all over the world. One of my joys is to browse through other blogs that show unique photos of where they live. What better way to learn about the world than through these blogs and what better way to learn about the flavor of each place than by someone who lives there and knows it?

Organizer: Days of Photographs

Visit organizing blog each Sunday for the week’s instructions

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I would also like to introduce you to two blog sites that I enjoy.

IMAGINE! Is a thoroughly enjoyable blog with his witty humor and “satire-ic” personality. His blog will keep you rolling with laughter. Check out this post, Molding Young Minds! You won't be disappointed. (Warning: a few 'R' rated words).

In case you like Crocheting, check out Young at Fifty. Her blog chronicles her crocheting projects and shows pictures of those projects she completes. She crochets amazing things! For instance, Lakshimi the Indian Lady, Budgies, Amigurumi birds, Harry Potter characters, and HUMAN ANATOMY! (Yes! Skeleton, heart, colons, kidneys, liver….(however, I did not see blood. :D).

I hope you enjoy these blogs as much as I do. Here's wishing you all much blogging fun and success!

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Scarey Story of Two Foolish Girls

Vicki, my best friend in the 9th grade was one of those friends that when we got together we could innocently get ourselves in all types of trouble. She was a fun person and loved excitement. I was just drawn to her personality like a magnet and we became the best of friends.

During the early summer between our 9th and 10th grade, she and her family moved to Denver, Colorado.

It was a sad and boring summer for me until I was finally able to fly to Denver at the end of the summer to visit her. Unfortunately, when I got there she was “grounded” over something she did, so we were “house bound”. Therefore, we knew if there was any chance that we could get out of the house, we were going to have fun and make the best of it.

One evening, we were able to get her parents to allow us to go to Elitches, a theme park in Denver. We were thrilled! Finally, freedom! What could we do to have the most fun and take advantage of this one and only chance? Putting our 15 year old minds together, we decided to try and meet some boys. We decided we would sneak out of her house and have them come and pick us up. (Did our safey ever cross our minds? Not even for a second! So foolish! Typical fifteen year old girls).

We ran into a couple of “nice” boys and they agreed to pick us up right after midnight. We were so excited!

The “bewitching” hour came and very carefully, we proceeded to sneak out of her bedroom window. Great! Sneaking out accomplished! (Her parents had no idea).

The boys picked us up and immediately took us to a haunted house. The house looked very similar to this one. Why they chose a haunted house, I have no idea. However, we didn't care. We had our freedom!

We just parked in front of this haunted house and sat there and visited with each other. No kissing and no hanky panky.

Vicki decided to get out of the car and check out the haunted house. I wasn't about to, so I just stayed in the car. After a few minutes, she and her friend came back to the car and we asked them to take us home.

Fortunately for us, they agreed and took us back to Vicki's house.

Just as soon as we got out of the car to sneak back into her house, they started honking their horn and yelling, “YOUR DAUGHTER HAS JUST BEEN RAPED!!” (Not true). Why they did this I don't know because neither one of them tried to take advantage of us. (Thank God!) Maybe they were just teaching us a lesson.

We started running as fast as we could. While we were still running we jumped in through her bathroom window and got into bed as fast as we could. We were terrified!!

As soon as we were in bed and the covers were over us, her bedroom door flew open and her dad was standing there checking on us. Apparently he had heard all the commotion outside. He was satisfied that we were fast asleep and closed the door again.

Whew! That was a close one!

When I think back to this adventure of ours, I can't believe what foolish girls we were.

(This post was in response to the “Scarey Story” prompt from http://curiousflowers.wordpress.com.)

I am also participating in the Zero to Hero Challenge with WordPress. http://zerotohero.wordpress.com.

 

Daily Prompt & Zero to Hero Challenge

Today's Daily Prompt is the assignment for the Zero to Hero Challenge Assignment.

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For me, today's prompt is: “The Luckiest People.” We are to discuss the first person we encountered in our day and write about him or her. For me, the luckiest person is two people. Both of them WordPress bloggers, as we chatted through the comments section of their blogs and my blog.

The first person I encountered was calmgirl06 through her post, “If The Shoe Fits.” Her blog url is http://talesofaslightlystressedmother. I have concluded that her part of the world is in the evening hours when my part of the world is in the morning hours. I am able to connect to her quickly when I wake up in the morning and have a “chat” session with her. I loved her post picture this morning. It was a picture of her family's shoes all placed into a circle. I could “imagine” the children who wear those shoes and I could also picture her and her husband (although I do not know what they look like except for calmgirl06).

Next I ran into Kim13 through her post, “Life's Labor Pains,” her url is http://quietdesperation.wordpress.com.

Kim discusses how painful change is for everyone who experiences it. She is currently facing change in her life and as she goes through these “labor pains” of change, she knows the end result will be joyful. Kim has a wonderful way of drawing her readers inside of her emotions and her daily life. After reading her posts, I always end with the feeling of, “I truly hope the best for you.”

During the winter months I don't get out of my house very often, so my encounters will be my friends on the internet. I am so grateful for finding WordPress and for the friends I have made on this site. I also love how the employees of WordPress draw their clients into different challenges and prompts.

I still have so very much to learn.

Life’s A Choice – Spiritbath

Today's zerotohero challenge asks us to link to a post that we made a comment on and further expand on our comment.

Yesterday, for our zero to hero challenge http://zerotoherochallenge.wordpress.com we were asked to find three blogs to follow and leave comments on these blogs.

I am linking to to the blog post of Spiritbath. The video shown on this blog post was awesome and I wanted all those who are following/reading my blog to see/listen to it. However, there was not a button to “Press This”. My comment asked them to add this widget to their blog.

Please take a minute and listen to this video. It really is awesome.

Spiritbath: Lifes a Choice Between Love or Fear/Come on People We Got This

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

http://spiritbath.com/2014/01/13/lifes-a-choice-between-love-or-fear-come-on-people-we-got-this/

 

 

A Post With a New Element and MAD

I am MAD!

On day six of the http://zerotohero challenge we are asked to publish a post that includes a new element. They gave us the instructions on how to download a video from Youtube and Vimeo. I downloaded Vimeo so I could embed a video from it and all the videos they showed on their first feed were pornography videos. After being shocked, I dropped that idea very quickly. It disgusts me that children can see these videos so easily. They didn't just show women naked, they showed women's private parts CLEARLY! Why would Vimeo allow these pictures to come up at the very beginning of their feeds when there are so many children on internet?

I realize that we cannot protect our children from everything on the internet, but sites like these sure do make it even more difficult for us.

Personally, I am going to delete Vimeo and use Youtube. And, if I find the same problem with Youtube, I will delete them too.

This picture is of my little granddaughter. I can't stand to even think of her viewing this garbage, and even worse, being used for such garbage.

For heaven's sake Vimeo and other video and picture sights, HELP US PROTECT OUR CHILDREN! Is that too much to ask? ——- NO !!!! ———-

I Was Lost But Now I’m Found!

Day 3: What is on my mind?

Day 4: Exploring the Neighborhood

It must have been the second day of the http://zerotohero.wordpress.com challenge that I got lost. There wasn't a topic for us to write about that day so they told us to go to the Daily Prompt and use that topic. I did for that day, and the next day, and the next.. then I went back to the zerotohero challenge post and found out these were the topics that I should have been writing about. Please pardon me for my tardiness. (I was doing what I thought I was suppose to be doing but I was wrong). Now I am following the zerotohero blog which means I have been found or maybe.. they have been found?? Anyway, in this post, I am combining Day 3 and Day 4.

What Is On My Mind? Exploring the Neighborhood

When I started blogging on WordPress I wanted to connect with other writers and learn to write better. I wanted to share some of my life experiences because I believed it would help others in their journey through life. I believed that possibly my “wisdom” or my “lack of wisdom” would help others not make the same mistakes I did, of which caused me great misery. Also, I wanted to connect with others and learn from them. (I am finding that I am learning more from them they are learning from me).

When I joined the WordPress Community, I really had no idea what I was doing and began learning (and still am) from my mistakes and my successes. I had no idea how large this community is and I was delightfully surprized to find just how much I enjoy blogging and reading other bloggers' posts. I found this community to be a new “way of life” for me, and I really do enjoy it. I have met people that I do truly love now and feel like I have known them all my life. I am anxious to meet new people and read their posts.

The WordPress community is certainly a family for me and for many others. I feel like I am finding long lost brothers and sisters. It is wonderful!

I will be exploring my neighborhood and I hope to meet you!

 

Beginners Luck & The One Arm Bandit

I had been to the Las Vegas, Nevado scene a few times with my husband. However, when casinos were put in near my home area I refused to go to to them.

Finally, my mother and sister talked me into going to one with them. So… one evening we decided to go to a casino about 60 miles away. I only took $25 to gamble with and was going to quit once that $25 was gone. (If you have never gambled, that is NOT very much).

At that time, the machines required “quarters” to play the quarter machines (unlike the ticketed ones today). I decided I was going to stay at one machine and my mother and sister decided to try different machines every few minutes.

After about an hour playing this machine, I finally hit a jackpot of $200. I was thrilled!! (Beginners luck). I let all those quarters run into my purse and I refused to cash them in. Instead, I quit gambling and started walking around with $200 worth of quarters in my purse. It was VERY heavy. I don't know why, but I refused to cash the quarters in at the Cashiers Window.

On the road trip back home all I could think of was, “I can quit my job and live off the casinos. I can make at least $200 a week”.. etc… etc….

Of course, the next time we went to a casino, I promptly lost my $25. And the next time… and the next time. Finally…. gone was the dream of living off of gambling winnings.

I now have learned my lesson. I think those machines have some sort of a “sensing” mechanism that detects the “newbies” in order to get us hooked into their “foxy” games “and sticky” fingers.

Slot Machines are truly ONE ARMED BANDITS. !!! R U N R U N R U N !!!!


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DailyPrompt: Beyond the Pale

When was the last time you did something completely new and out of your element? How was it? Will you do it again?